two intelligent adults who feel they don\'t have friends
Sat, Sep 8th 2007
My husband and I (age 55) have been happily married for 34 years; share world views, great sense of ridicuous. Both identified as gifted children, participated in gifted programmes; adequate career achievement. Both always struggle to feel part of a social group or network ; want to be included but find general conversation a bit trite and don\'t see the point of many of the activities. People do seem to like us (e.g. many visitors when ill) but somehow we just don\'t \"fit in\". I constantly criticise myself (and my husband, sometimes!) trying to analyse what it is about us that isolates us. What is wrong with us? And how to improve?
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