I've been married for 11 years. Early on my wife cheated on me twice (I found the note she wrote confessing of her love to him) and I came home in while she was in the act with the second guy. She has also exposed herself to others on the internet in the past. I decided to stay with her and we worked out our problems and the relationship seems to be stronger than ever. But the other day I found a posting on an amateur erotic website that some guy had sent in that was titled "a friend." I swear (I'm about 85%sure) I think its her. I couldn't see most of the face but what I saw of the body and lower chin I think it's her! I am heartbroken at the thought of this, but I don't know how to bring it up. I can't just drop it because it is eating away at me all the time, every day since I saw it. Do I just ask her or do I try to dig around a little first to try and make sure first? I feel so lost and hopeless because of this. Please help me!
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