Trauma and Drama: Why are friends and family rejecting me?
Fri, Jan 16th 2009
Dear Anne, I am afraid this may have the tone of venting because the most recent catalyst happened just today. I just had someone who until now I would have called a friendly acquaintance (I'll refer to her as Sam) behave in a totally unprepossessing manner toward me. We were the first two people to get to our classroom today, so I said "Hi, what're you up to lady?"... she said none of my business, in a rude way. OK, I went through an entire class after this, and, because this was out of character, after class I asked her calmly why she was having a problem with me, and she went off about how she'd had a problem with me for the last 6 months and she wasn't going to be my new crutch (this comment was based on a friendship that she only witnessed the end of.)
This and other events in my life force me to conclude that almost all people tending toward type A personalities, view me as emotionally weak. I am not weak... I admit am not strong.. I am human, I have had my problems and I feel that I have the right to have them, and I am sick of people condemning me for it; my sister, the ex-friend, who Sam is basing her conclusions on, and now... Sam.
I recently lost my father, I have spent two years attending counseling, and trying different medications for chemical depression and anxiety problems, and although I am aware that these are only the actions of three people; I feel targeted, and not really sure how to handle the situation, much less how to improve it. So I would appreciate a fresh and neutral eye.
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